Most marriages fail these days because of some things we fail
to put some thongs into considerations especially SEX. Its hopeless to think you
are perfect and neglect your responsibilities as a wife In the house. Let me
share with us a little story:
Donald 37, a business man, tall and handsome, slim and fair
married to Cynthia 34 a banker, average height, dark and beautiful. They both
have two children, Philip (5) and Gloria (3), a boy and a girl. From the beginning they
both love each other.
Most Nigerians know how tedious a bank job is but never the
less, it shouldn’t tell on our marriages. Cynthia leaves for work very early in
the morning and comes back home very late in the night everyday, she only have
time for her self and her family on weekends. Not too long in her place of work
she was promoted and given a managerial post as the marketing manager because
of hard work and because of this she now has series of meetings to attend even
on weekends . Sometimes she even travels out of town which is really telling on
her home. Her husband complains every time because he doesn’t have her to
himself anymore, not even to her children. Cynthia now has no time for sex at
all. She could go for months without allowing her husband to touch her and
every time he tries to touch her she gives him a could shoulder, snobs him,
telling him she is tire and he should be aware of that. Cynthia is a perfectionist and very authoritative,because of these house
helps doesn’t stay that long in their house, she keeps on sending them away and
even became bossy to her husband and even her children could hardly recognize
their mother. After a while,the Husband out of frustration, rejection,
loneliness and helplessness found himself another woman, who takes care of him,
listens to him, even takes care of his children. Little by little,the marriage
crumbled and she lost both her husband and her children. Who is to be blamed.
SEX: This is one paramount thing in all marriages. If you
want to keep your home please give it all it takes. Do no let sex be out of any
marital bliss. Sex keeps your marriage groovy. Its awesome. Most women shy away
from this thinking it’s a sin. What is sin in having sex during marriage. Its
better you have sex with your husband than loosing him to someone who dosen't
deserve it. Do not deprive yourselves of your right. Sex during marriage is
your right.
SUPPORTIVE: As a woman always be supportive. Help your
husband in some areas you think he needs help, either financially or morally. It helps marriages a lot.
AUTHORITATIVE: no matter your level or position at work it
deosn’t apply at home so as a woman don’t ever try to be bossy on your husband.
He is your husband and not your staff. Give him utmost respect he deserve.
Don’t ever belittle your husband for no reason, even if he is a truck driver
and you are a bank manager. Westernization is also something that is making
most marriages break these days. After going to school everybody feel he or she
is on top of the world and can talk to anybody anyhow because of that.
COMMUNICATION: You must always communicate with each other.
Tell each other about everything you are doing or an idea you are thinking
about, where you are or where you are going.
PRAYER: This is also
very important above all. You need to pray to sustain your home. I remember our
nursery rhyme when we were little “prayer is the key,prayer is the key, prayer
is the master key…………” To start anything in marriage you have to pray.
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